Celebrating Valentine’s Day after divorce can be tricky and even difficult. I am what some may call a hopeless romantic (blushing). I love, LOVE! The feelings of loving someone romantically is invigorating.
However, Valentine’s Day does not only represent the romantics. It is also a time to show appreciation and affection toward anyone who is special in your life. I believe that we, human beings, were made to love and we are empty without giving and receiving love. We can express that love toward our children, parents, friends, siblings, or even peers. The feeling of loving someone aside from romance is still euphoric and pays great dividends.
I like to think of those who stood by my side through some really ugly situations that happened in my life. Don’t take for granted other’s kindness or support. Valentine’s Day is the perfect holiday to pay special attention to them.
Don’t let divorce stop you from loving now
Being divorced is not a death sentence to love in your life. I decided to focus on who does love me instead of who does not. It’s easier to enjoy people who accept me vs. those who push me out. So surround yourself with beautiful people who choose to want your company.
As girls, in particular, get older, acceptance becomes so very important. I find that my daughter can get sucked into the drama of the two people who are mean and not accepting vs. the 10 girls calling to have a play date and thinks she is the boom.com…… and a bag of chips.
This can be the case not only with children but also adults. The hurtful exes become the focus and not the 10 invites from friends calling to spend Galentine’s Day with you.
Most of all, there is YOU! Yeap, show yourself some love. How you show yourself love is plainly visible. When you love yourself, it attracts the right people into your life which helps you become an even better person. Your confidence wards off the dream suckers and haters. I have a habit of taking myself to the movies and doing a variety of things for me to enjoy myself.
This Valentine’s Day, focus on those who value you. Take the initiative to plan something special to say “I LOVE YOU”. Don’t sit by wishing the person you prefer to love you decides to show up with special treats. Change your focus off of your exes. Instead, see the big hearts standing right around you eager to share genuine love with you.
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!
Original post blog post No Love Lost. Enjoy Valentine’s Day After a Divorce originally published on (02/12/18).
